How To Be a Classy Lady: Keeping Good Company

Friday, January 11, 2013

"My idea of good company is the company of clever, well-informed people who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call good company." 
                                           Jane Austen
Oscar Wilde once said, "conversation about the weather is the last refuge of the unimaginative." Unfortunately, in the last three conversations I had, the last topic discussed was the heat strike we're experiencing in JANUARY, and the conversation basically fizzled after that.

Personal style is more than stylists and couture and LBD's; it's about developing skills that make style shine through, and currently, one skill I am developing is the art of being a good conversationalist. When talking to attractive boys people I don't know that well, I tend to freeze up and focus on how much I am mumbling, how silly I must sound rambling on, and how unintelligent I must seem. And then I pull a Kafka (see, I learned something in English yesterday!) and retreat inward and let everyone else go on having good conversation without me.

Today, however, I've been thinking and paying attention to the qualities that make good conversationalists shine. First of all, there's an immediate atmosphere of comfort felt around such a person: this person is kind, thoughtful, and considerate. She goes out of her way to make others feel welcome in the conversation. Second, she thinks of the other people first, she knows that people like to talk about themselves, and she's genuinely interested in what they have to say. She's an excellent listener and she responds positively. Thirdly, she's informed and intelligent. She is familiar with current events and different cultures. Though by no means an expert or know-it-all, she can keep pace with a variety of topics and stay relevant in conversation with all kinds of people. Finally, and most importantly, she is confident: she holds eye contact, she is comfortable herself, she has open, honest body language.

Conversation is one of the most important skills to develop in college and is one that will be important in almost all situations. As a freshman, I meet new people everyday, and beyond that, I'm surrounded by people all day. These people respond to genuine conversation, and after a particularly satisfying conversation, I feel personally successful, brighter, happier. Conversation is like golf; it's a skill that takes a lifetime to develop, but with enough practice, you can become a pro.

{currently listening to}

As Long As You Love Me - Backstreet Boys
I Want It That Way - Backstreet Boys

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2 comments:

  1. Very well said! And you look adorable. Keep it up :)

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  2. Thank you so much!

    Hepburn Comma Me xx

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